You didn’t stop walking just because you fell down as a child, did you?Or did you stop playing a game or driving around in your car because you screwed up at some point? It’s the little imperfections that make live perfect.I quickly learned that author Lauren Passell and I are kindred spirits.Tell the truth with humor and let the chips fall where they may. My ex destroyed all my hopes that someone will love me for who I am and not just use me. I am scared to try again and take a risk, especially since I have kids and I don’t want to see my kids get hurt by someone they love.
But when an article popped up on my Facebook newsfeed that was called “The 12 Reasons You’re Afraid to Get Into A Relationship (And Why You Should Just Chill)”, I clicked through.
After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. Background: I'm in my early 30s and attractive and have never had problems finding a date, and I dated extensively in my 20s.
However, since my last two relationships went south, I am completely relationship phobic.
Before you go in, take a minute and allow yourself to feel whatever is happening physically in your body—just allow yourself to feel and have compassion for your nervousness. If you’re on a date or talking to someone you’re interested in, allow yourself to feel that anxiety or fear.
Notice that the feeling is happening and remind yourself that even though it isn’t pleasant, it actually won’t kill you.