Many people assumed that after my official RCA conversion we'd skip out on shomer negiah, that it was just part of an act we put on for the committee of rabbis.
Having only adopted this All that being said, I think it is a brilliant practice, and here’s what I told that guy who told me that it is nuts: In the rest of the world, being single means being “free.” Why?
Then on a date, during my senior year of high school, an older guy tried to take advantage of me.
(Thankfully, I was able to get away before he did.) Suddenly seemed like a very good idea.
I spent my entire teenage and adult life, up until this narrative begins, living as a normal girl with the normal urges and the normal actions. My neshama was not happy with how I was carrying myself as an Orthodox Jewish woman, especially one going through the Orthodox conversion process.
We were, for all intents and purposes, like every other "normal," American couple out there. I needed to not kiss him, or hug him, or touch him. There was no more physical intimacy and the kisses and hugs grew further and farther apart.