She takes up hobbies that require her to be fully present in her own body: salsa dancing, scuba diving.She quits her safe, buttoned-up teaching job for an MFA program that will allow her to follow her literary dreams, and she travels. And she begins to feel out of place in a religion that so heavily emphasizes marriage as the end-all of human experience – even tying marital status to eternal worth – and that praises motherhood as the default goal of every human with a uterus. And sadly, even the "Mid-Singles 31 " events, make us feel old. Chances are, we all will know who Bob Newhart was, watched Laugh In, saw Saturday Night Fever and can sing the lyrics to Hotel California. We certainly don't fit into any 20's to 30's group. We are single Latter Day Saints, between the ages of 40 years young and "still breathing".He won the marathon in the 1972 Olympics, placed second in 1976, and has won literally hundreds of long-distance races.As we talked about his training schedule, I learned that he had dedicated a great part of his life to succeeding in that impressive area of athletics.There is a tendency in life, brothers and sisters, to simplify problems and complicate solutions. But I have learned that, when we utilize the teachings of the Master, the solutions to even the most difficult of life’s challenges are usually basic and easy to implement.
Well, while thinking of Frank Shorter and his goals and others who have succeeded in their chosen lines of work or hobbies or professions, I have asked myself, Why couldn’t more of our husbands and wives have the same type of dedication to a successful marriage as do renowned athletes, physicians, educators, and governmental leaders as they excel in their professions?
So let's get together for some social events, outings, physical activities and spiritual programs where we can have fun, feel comfortable in living our Faith, be ourselves and make new friends.
There is so much we can see and do as a group of friends here in this beautiful and vibrant area of Utah.
Most of these “mid-singles” (those who have grown too old for the Young Single Adult wards that boot out all over-30s, Logan’s Run-style) are faithful, active, interesting, beautiful women. I just finished reading the memoir of one such woman, a BYU graduate.
Nicole Hardy has a happy and stable Mormon childhood and always expects to get married.