Without training, education, and support, many gay men are forced to “wing it” as they mingle and mate with other men, leaving many of them unsatisfied with their dating experiences and wondering if they’ll ever find a loving partner to settle down with. Creating a full life puts you in charge of your own happiness and puts less emphasis and dependency on finding a relationship to make you whole.What follows is a tips list of things for gay men to keep in mind as they go about meeting other men in pursuit of their Mr. Add your own to the list and keep it handy as a quick-reference guide as you embark upon your dating adventures to promote greater success in your romantic life. You must be whole as a person first before a healthy relationship can be cultivated. Know who you are, what your needs and values are, and what you stand for.The second you start to evaluate your date two incredible things happen.There isn’t a whole lot you can do about the fact that you’re a shy guy.One of the developmental tasks of all adolescents is to establish productive relationships with their peer group and to understand and manage their sexuality.Dating provides fertile training ground for these teens for learning about themselves and how to establish and maintain healthy intimate relationships as they continue to mature and grow.You have to figure out where to meet them, how to approach them, and then how to gain and keep their attraction.For people that don't naturally have good social skills, it can be like solving a puzzle.
For others, it’s physical attraction that leads to a blissful one-night stand.Here are a few pitfalls to avoid, and how to avoid them. When someone makes a significantly greater amount of money than the other, it can create a power struggle than may leave the "less fortunate" of the two feeling "less than." When all of a sudden, you are going to restaurants you can’t afford and destinations that are out of reach for your own wallet, it can make you feel more like a purchased good than an equal partner.To put an end to this, strike a balance in the budget.Due to growing up in a homophobic society, most gay men as teenagers had to keep their sexualities hidden for fear of social backlash and further damage to their already shaky self-images.Some boys chose to distance themselves completely from dating, while others chose to date their female peers to more easily “fit in” and be accepted.