Since our divorce, I don’t care that he had a mistress, since the feeling that he still wants me so much gives me comfort and I feel secure with him. I have tried to date another man, but I couldn’t see the same stability with him.
I know I don’t have stability with my ex-husband right now either.
It would take a great deal of counseling and work in the relationship to prove the adulterer or abuser is trustworthy and safe.
Interestingly enough, I hear lots of the same things.
If the problems in your marriage are reversible, in that with work you can solve them, it's possible you can reconcile.
Jean: I'm almost 34, but I look like I'm in my twenties, and my only addiction is Pepsi. (Since I hadn't earned the money, I didn't want to take any of it; he insisted on giving it all to me.) We share household cleaning responsibilities equally. And if the fling turns so lusty that it threatens your platonic relationship? Here's hoping it turns into an exclusive lifelong love affair!
These feelings and reminiscent thoughts are what drive divorced couples back to each other to rekindle the passion and love they lost.
The reasons why you decided to get a divorce has an impact on the chances of reconciliation.