Christa: I actually approached someone on the train recently and he was totally ok with it but yeah it was kind of up to me to make a move.
Chiara: Um, let’s say in another field I had to make the first step.
First I gotta make some disclaimers, this is An-An which is probably very much like Cosmopolitian, I’m not sure how much you can really trust them.
On the otherhand most of the stuff I read fits with my experience watching my Japanese co-workers.
This article though is of course written for Japanese woman about Japanese men and so it supposedly represents the stereotype of J-Men and it’s interesting to notice the differences between that stereotype, myself and the supposed normal western guy. , my comments are in italic The article is split into several parts.
Rebecca: I wasn’t so attracted to Japanese men but now after living here for three years I would say I definitely am. Christa: I’ve always been attracted to Japanese men, even when I was young, so I did some research before I came here and I saw that generally they are interested but they’re very shy about approaching women so you may need to approach them.
So now when I go home I immediately look for the nearest Asian guy like ‘Hey! Christa: I was with a girlfriend in Shibuya and two men approached us on the street and we went out for drinks. *Laughter* Rebecca: Exactly, each time that’s happened to me the guy has been pretty hammered.
It is commonly believed that dating in Japan is easy for non-Asian (particularly white) men and hard for women.
I came across a blog post by zoomingjapn, a German girl living in Japan, writing about dating in Japan as a foreigner. She writes, ‘It is comparably easy for a western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan’, but ‘it is extremely tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.’ Her story is interesting in itself but the most interesting part of the article is the huge number of comments gets – 162 comments (or about 30,000 words! A lot of people who commented actually disagree with her.