You would think that dealing with adult children after divorce would be easier than helping younger children understand everything.
Unfortunately, this isn't always true, as pointed out in the following questions: Ann's Situation: We've been married for 35 years; the last 6 have been unhappy and unfulfilling.
Bryan, 23, kept repeating that he could no longer “trust” her. “I thought I was close to my children, but suddenly I felt like I didn’t understand them at all.” Why Grown Kids Don’t Like Your New Partner Throwing a hissy fit is a natural youthful reaction to divorced parents’ dating, says Dr. Lieberman, a psychiatrist in Beverly Hills, Calif., who is on the clinical faculty at the Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior at UCLA.
Both children were so insistent that she put off the wedding for at least a year that she did, reluctantly. Unfortunately, this behavior doesn’t always end after a child is in his 20s.
It’s probably one of the more difficult things for a child to undertake, and it’s not easy on you either.“This even upsets kids who are already out of the nest.The message their parents are sending is that it is more important for them to have a life of their choosing than to remain in their prior, primary role of mom or dad.” The result: strained relations, uncomfortable moments for everyone and, for you, the feeling that your children may not have your best interests at heart.After all, who wants to be responsible for their parents being miserable?We’ll need time to take it all in so please don’t expect us to just pick up and move on. It helped shape our ideas about marriage, relationships and family.