The other day, at a Fashion Week party, my friend Alan and I stood against a wall, scanning the room for hot people, as you do.“It’s weird,” he said contemplatively, staring into a sea of models.In The New York Times interview, Hamermesh found that for beautiful people in general, "Most of us, regardless of our professed attitudes, prefer as customers to buy from better-looking salespeople, as jurors to listen to better-looking attorneys, as voters to be led by better-looking politicians, as students to learn from better-looking professors." Beautiful women have it even better and get away with things ordinary people can't.Try talking an officer out of a ticket, or walking in without a reservation and getting a table at that hot new restaurant or talking that male co-worker into helping you move some furniture. Beautiful women get more smiles, more handsome lovers and better treatment, and perhaps they expect it.
They will assume the worst and think that men aren’t hitting on them because they are too fat, too ugly, or (insert irrational insecurity here) And the deeper the insecurity, the larger the bitchiness walls they erect to protect themselves. Can all of these bad things be caused by a little irrational fear and a lack of understanding? Just look at the case of any war, that has ever happened. It can drive people to hurt those they love and betray our better natures. If you are a man and you are intimidated by beautiful women, then you are setting yourself up for a life time of confusion, anger and disappointment.
On the other hand, how frustrating is it that men can be freaked out by impressive women?
Gender norms are shifting, and it can be hard for guys to get used to the idea of a woman who not only matches but potentially surpasses their strength.
Or, more simply, have we just realized that dating freakishly beautiful people isn’t all it's cracked up to be?
A female friend once told me, “It’s always best to date attractive men, but not attractive that everyone’s constantly trying to jump on their dick, because that’s just stressful.” The sentiment actually made a lot of sense to me.